The Art of Not Quitting

Many of you may know me as a former professional MMA fighter. Some of you have watched me compete and a few may have even trained or grappled with me before.

What I doubt most people are aware of is how long it has taken me to reach this point in my life.

Savage Gentleman founder Josh Tyler MMA with his coaches after receiving BJJ Black Belt
"A black belt is a white belt who never quits." - Renzo Gracie

As a boy, I loved playing sports and my dream was to be a professional athlete one day. Unfortunately, I was not particularly athletic or skilled when I first started. I was an undersized, uncoordinated, little nerdy kid, who enjoyed just being a part of the team.

But I wanted to be good and I was willing to work. Hard. And if I'm honest, harder than most everyone around me.

This was a quality that was instilled in me by my father, whose work ethic is unrivaled.

He never demanded perfection, only that we did our best. And that each day, we worked to be a little better than the day before.

I carried this mentality through high school and Division I collegiate wrestling, then as an amateur and professional MMA fighter.

And while I certainly wasn't the best in the world, my ability to put in effort served me well.

It's common to see someone reach a high level of skill in something and assume they are a natural. For me, this was not at all the case.

But achievement does come naturally. It just takes dedicated time, concentrated effort, and consistent work.
Savage Gentleman founder Josh Tyler MMA with his wife and kids after receiving his BJJ Black Belt
Getting my BJJ Black Belt is something that has been 25 years in the making, (ever since I started wrestling when I was 11 years old).

It has been a journey full of ups and downs...of joyous celebration and devastating disappointment.

There were countless times that I felt like giving up and walking away.

But I didn't.

I was taught that quitting wasn't acceptable...because after you quit once, it becomes easier and easier to quit again and again.

It becomes a habit and it is something I never want to start.

So for those of you who are working towards something, don't get discouraged if it takes you longer than expected.

Don't give up and don't walk away.

Because anything that is worth having is worth waiting and working for...

You just have to be willing to put in the time and effort.



Savage Gentleman founder Josh Tyler MMA wearing Black Toxic Masculinity Tshirt
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Sorry, I accidentally hit the post button before completely finishing my story… so, reading your story of hard work and perseverance was very encouraging to me. So thanks and continued success to you in the future

Ralf Groh July 12, 2021

I was the only non— athlete in a large family of very competitive people. As a small child I was put down by some serious illnesses. But in my family, that was not an excuse. As a result, I had to work especially hard just to be an average athlete. I was fortunate to, as a result, actually excel in a

Ralf Groh July 12, 2021

Thank you sir, just what I needed to hear.

Jaime Delgado July 12, 2021

Very inspirational, thanks for sharing Josh and congratulations on your black belt!!

Christian “PDad” Rivera June 17, 2021

Thank you for this! I’ve been a High Voltage Lineman for 25 years now. Recently, at the age of 52, I began another career path and enrolled in a flight school to become a Rotary Wing ( Helicopter) pilot.
It’s certainly challenging ( you need like eight arms to fly these damn things)! Although, I haven’t seriously considered quitting, the thought does creep into the back of my mind from time to time. Earlier this week I have struggled with a maneuver or two and have questioned myself as to the validity of this goal. This post came at the perfect time. Thanks again!

Brad June 17, 2021

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